Last Thursday was my birthday. 

I am now 52 years or 18,993 days old.

While there were some beautiful moments that day, I’m not going to pretend like it was perfect because it wasn’t. Even though it was most certainly a day to celebrate life, I felt thrown off by some conversations and relationships that historically trigger me. While I have worked hard to address these types of reactions this year, on my birthday I regressed a bit. In that tender humanness, I was reminded of how inner peace is a practice, a journey not a destination. 

Since life’s curveballs are a challenge we all face,  I’d like to share some thoughts around this with you today.

We all struggle with our humanness. What I mean by humanness is the vulnerability we feel based on the stories we tell ourselves. Lies really. It is important to be able to acknowledge this truth as part of our pilgrimage to becoming more whole, to becoming one with ourselves, one with others and with the universe

The key is being able to remind ourselves over and over of this truth:

I’m not perfect. Life is not perfect. Even though at times I feel inadequate, fearful or less than, I trust my heart to guide me through the fear, anger or resentment.

Despite my imperfectness, I am enough. That no matter how many times I am triggered, I am still stronger than I think.  I am worthy of love, joy and abundance. And I create this for myself.

One of the biggest things I know to be true is that – when we are able to sync more completely with our soul, that is when we feel more at peace. As I continue to age – my hope is do it with grace, to love and respect my body no matter what challenges I face. 

Here are a Few Strategies to Get you Started:

Make time every day to be alone with yourself and reflect. This needs to be non-negotiable. Focus on gratitude but also allow yourself to process, then naturally release. The best way to do this is through writing in a notebook or journal.

Be inspired daily through reflection of our humanness. Connect to your soul through resources like the Bible or self help books.

Create a mantra that you say to yourself daily – throughout the day.  Some examples are  I am whole, perfect, strong, loving harmonious and happy. I am powerful beyond measure. I am worthy of love.

Get a coach who will hold you to your truth and honor your soul (not your personality or ego)

I leave you with one of my favorite passages from Marianne Williamson’s Book Return to Love.

 Our Deepest Fear

By Marianne Williamson

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness
That most frightens us.
We ask ourselves
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small
Does not serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking
So that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine,
As children do.
We were born to make manifest
The glory of God that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us;
It’s in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine,
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we’re liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.